The Mall Outing with Tears

Mom and I went for an exercise walk in the Mall and did 2 laps around.

The parking lot was unexpectedly empty and we got a first row not handicapped spot.

One the first lap around:

I had stopped at Craving a Game; where dot dot dot

I do not wish to share his private life – but I cried in public.

He offered me a tissue, and I offered him a hug – which he accepted that empathy.

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One the second, I saw a little boy drop his beverage on the floor, the Father waiting with him, while the Mom went to a restaurant for napkins.

I hesitated and then went to the Mall Customer Service counter that was a few steps from the spill. I waited until one of the staff noticed me and I was about to give up when one of them got up to come to the counter.

I pointed and said “There’s a beverage spill that parents are trying to clean up, can you call the cleaners?”

She nodded and moved into action.

I walked over to the Father and Son, the Mom approaching with a handful of napkins

“The Mall is sending cleaners,” I smiled, “Accidents happen” and I smiled at the little boy.

the parents were awash with relief and the Mall Staff took control of the scene.

we left the mall through Shoppers Drug Mart

and I ignored that I have made a complaint to the College of Pharmacy and going to that particular location is anxious for me

and I pushed away the memory of being in that particular one, when my Dad had had a fall in the Mall during a mall walk, I jut kept walking and breathing

out in the parking lot, an elderly woman, who was physically shaking, asked me to open her vehicle so she could sit down – which I did with one click on the open lock icon on her vehicle fob

Her explaining that she was tired and had to sit, and her daughter was shopping

It was funny, because on the day that my Dad had had his fall, I was too flustered to get the vehicle to start and had to ask a stranger in the parking lot for help – and she was willing to help and then when she had to get in my vehicle to start it, she had gotten nervous – but she started my car and then got out – I had stepped farther back away from the open driver door to make her comfortable that me and my Mom (who was in the vehicle) just needed assistance. 

She heard the door unlock and opened it, so I stepped back and waited for her to be seated, then I was sure to return her key fob to her.

as I left, she called out “Merry Christmas”

I glanced back and noticed the vehicle plate was from the USA – Oregon.

“Happy Holidays” I replied with a smile – her Daughter and Grandson now at the car with her.

Then it was out of the lot, which was still fairly empty

A Mall Outing Sans Shopping

Today, A Kind Act Made Me Cry

After that, it was the Grocery Chain Store, which was a frustrating parking lot

I have no idea why a car with 2 people backed out of the space, parked in the driving area between theirs and the opposite space, so I could not even get into the lot at the front of the store.

they then got out and traded positions, and not in a fun prank way, but in a why the fuck are you wasting everyone’s gas while blocking and confusing everyone.

I parked and when they drove by me, I gave them a dirty look, which the passenger just looked blankly back at me, no point to even flip them off.

Off the the gas station next, fill up the tank and then home again home again

in my designated custom parking spot.

Gamering: Family Bored Games to Gamer Games

A Mall Outing Sans Shopping

Poxes, Great and Small



Teachers wanted: BC at ‘crisis’ point in effort to fill jobs

with the decades of the government bashing on teachers, combined with ingrate students

is anyone surprised that no one wants to be around other people’s offspring?

Nuclear annihilation ‘one tantrum away’, Nobel peace prize winner warns

The Guardian 11h ago


Nobel Peace Prize winner Ican warns nuclear war ‘a tantrum away’



Happy Human Rights day

Human Rights Day 10 December – the United Nations

everything that exists gets to, and this idea that one person of the over 7 billion gets to decide

monarchies, dictatorships and oversight committees

are not the only inconsistency with equality

so are democracies when it’s mob rule by voter percentage

those who have rights, make the rules about rights

who gets them and when

what that means in society

or one/two/three nation(s) vs allies n blocs and/or all the others

After all, in America, “women” are not equal rights holders

despite whatever appearance of difference

that ethnicity and gender divide any group of people from another

over cultural affections and adornment & attire

If a person is not willing for others to have the same rights as they enjoy;

that makes them the problem: denial of others the right of personal sovereignty and dignity of person, withholding rights and limiting and delay them

are all denial and suppression of rights,

and in the USA, Happiness is the word that is supposed to count, eh.

which includes getting to walk into a bakery that sells to the public

to celebrate the exact same legal marriage as all others paired in two

Protest condemns Trump’s Jerusalem announcement

Public School is not about reinforcing what the parents know

it’s about teaching people to be more socially capable

in the 1900s of the common era, literacy around the world increased

people could read for themselves instead of being told

Web 2.0 Everyone posts and no one listens in cyberspace

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December 9: 1 Minus Human Rights Day


December 6: Canada Edition

December 6 – In Memorium

Quebec December 6: The Montreal Massacre of Women Engineering students

December 6 and Civilian Mass Shootings

British Columbia,

December 9, The BC Human Rights Tribunal invited a number of gay and lesbian groups to discuss the proposed legislated by the Progress Conservative Party’s then Minister of Justice Kim Campbell and the Supreme Court Ruling in the Brian Mossop vs Canada ruling that impacted employee benefits of queer employees being eventually deemed on par with those provided to heterosexual employees of the Federal Government.

CanCon Pridelets: The December 9 Coalition

I went to that meeting representing and reporting as Angles News Editor, Vancouver’s first queer newspaper.Part of why that meeting was so memorable, was because the group of gays and lesbians who were invited based on their having an association with a group with a listed in the phone book telephone; continued to meet and to build a coalition across community groups – and it lasted for several years and spanned many event types.

Being an Over-experienced community volunteer…

The December 9 Coalition, named for the meeting day and being before December 10 International Human Rights Day – for which, in the 1990s, we still were not there, nor now in 2017; geographically and social class relatively speaking eh.

December 10 – Happy Legal Fabrication Day

In the early 1990s, it went from being the Gay and Lesbian on the masthead to Gay, Lesbian and Bisexual by collective 3 months of meetings to accomplish; and adopted the phrase “Lesbigay” as an editorial short hand of lesbian bisexual gay — the later addition of Transgender, was after I had stopped volunteering and was done by a volunteer with stealth – being the person who dropped off the camera ready art to the printer’s – alone in the office with all the materials to simply make the change, which could not then be justifiable reverted. LGBT became the 1990s post AIDs cultural shift, the community began the internal adjustments, even as the mainstream began to adjust to us.

The 1990s Canadian Edition

Freddie Mercury’s AIDs death, kd lang, Melissa Etheridge and Ellen coming out.

The Forgotten Queers of 9/11

Applying Statistics to Community Activism: The Importance of Counting


burnt out, rusted out, worn out

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A Vancouver Brunch Day

Yesterday was Friday, the most fearful day for me of the week.

I drove into Vancouver, the city I fear, loath and am most disappointed in.

Went for brunch at my favorite restaurant Chong Qing

brunch itself was delicious and the conversation was stimulating

and wide ranging topics, history, hard and soft sciences, evolution as intersectional, with art and politics as lighter chat fare

traffic was light both ways, being after the morning rush hour and before the afternoon reversal rush

public distress managed and a successful social outing happened

agoraphobic philosopher


1st Vancouver Trip in 2017

Agoraphobic outing: Chong Qing


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A Mall Outing Sans Shopping

Today I went to the Central City formerly Surrey Place Mall; with my Mom.

We did two laps around the Mall and did not shop anywhere.

before we started the second lap, my Mom asked me how I was

so I said “Haven’t seen any Neo-Nazis; let’s do a second lap.”

I was being literal, I have seen people bearing tattoos and their creed built into their clothes.

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I am working on a letter to the Governor General of Canada





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Collecting Elvis Collector Sets

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December 6: Canada Edition

Halifax Explosion at 100: A devastating disaster that left a lasting mark

CBC.ca11 hours ago

Wartime Ships exploding or being sunk, 100 years ago

Out of living memory, with differing emotional resonances

It’s grave robbing’: Treasure hunters suspected to have looted …

National PostDec 5, 2017

100 years ago US joined European war

University PressNov 9, 2017
“This culminated in the sinking of the Lusitania, a British passenger ship, that killed 1,200 civilians — 128 Americans — that were being transported from New York to the British Isles. This outraged Americans, not just because of the American deaths, but because the immortality that Germans would attack
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Yes Peter, we do know why 14 female engineering students died

we do know why. they got into the program that he did not.

he blamed student quotas.


he walked into the room and ordered the male students out.

then. he shot:

  • Geneviève Bergeron (born 1968), civil engineering student
  • Hélène Colgan (born 1966), mechanical engineering student
  • Nathalie Croteau (born 1966), mechanical engineering student
  • Barbara Daigneault (born 1967), mechanical engineering student
  • Anne-Marie Edward (born 1968), chemical engineering student
  • Maud Haviernick (born 1960), materials engineering student
  • Maryse Laganière (born 1964), budget clerk in the École Polytechnique’s finance department
  • Maryse Leclair (born 1966), materials engineering student
  • Anne-Marie Lemay (born 1967), mechanical engineering student
  • Sonia Pelletier (born 1961), mechanical engineering student
  • Michèle Richard (born 1968), materials engineering student
  • Annie St-Arneault (born 1966), mechanical engineering student
  • Annie Turcotte (born 1969), materials engineering student
  • Barbara Klucznik-Widajewicz (born 1958), nursing student

Remembering the Slain, not the murderer

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Hard Truth for Heterosexual Men: Crime and Terror

I was driving and tuned into the radio. When I heard about a campus shooting, I thought, “Where in the USA did that happen?”

The story ended, the songs and commercials played. Then the news repeated and I heard it from the start. Canada. Quebec. Montreal. École Polytechnique

a man entered the engineering class, ordered the men out… and they left… then he shot the women.

some of the men couldn’t take it and killed themselves I read later

I had to pull over and stopped the engine; parked. I couldn’t believe it. I couldn’t breath. I had to just sit for a long time absorbing that this was imported to Canada.

I left the radio running on battery until the news repeated again. then I turned it off and just sat there and cried.

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hint: “ideals” vs material gain  over fame

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I am exhausted by the Family Values Cliche of being caught with Live Boys or Dead Girls
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Dykewriter Turns 5

5 Year Anniversary Achievement
Happy Anniversary with!
You registered on 5 years ago.
Thanks for flying with us. Keep up the good blogging.
Thanks wordpress
it’s been a bit longer, but I lost the password to my blogs in a firefox update.
and that was 5 years ago, when I started over on this blog
which has since spun off

I went out twice today
first to a Grocery Store Chain in Surrey
where I got called a “Miss” by a woman around my age
so I laughed and told her that I was 49 and it had been decades since I got called Miss
I have been called Sir more times than Miss
anyway, much better than a previous time there, eh?
the second was to a a Mall in Coquitlam for a medical appointment
there, I saw a man in a wheelchair being relentless cheerful about having to wait for the HandyDart Public Transit service for disabled people
I said it was really not okay for that service to be underfunded
his smile never faltered

Game Theory: The Marginalized Version

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