This is what happens when you tell the world’s women scientists that they all “fall in love with you and when you criticize them, they cry.”
Twenty-four male students out of seventy-five were selected to take on randomly assigned roles of prisoners and guards in a mock prison situated in the …
“Nice guys do not necessarily finish last, but they do finish a distant second in terms of earnings,” according to one study.
What doesn’t work outside an organization – a sense of fairness, teamwork, community values – often works inside an organization because most organizations are focused on short-term gains. Organizations value the individual, not the collective, and so will value someone who puts the organization (i.e. themselves) ahead of their personal life (if they have a personal life) by spending more time at work, as well as those who already enjoy a measure of social capital with friends they have collected in upper management; they can then spend time putting the noses of others to the grindstone, using themselves as an ‘example’ to others (“look what I’m doing for the organization, etc.”), and coupling this with unreasonable demands until they manipulate others into supporting them. Once they shore up collective support for their individual status, they coast on a wave of privilege and extra money.
I couldn’t disagree more. I think that it is one of the TRAITS of being a jerk, not the act of being a jerk, that results in success. That trait is a reduced need for validation. As a generality, “Nice” people need lots of validation. This means they try to conform and they make concessions in order to be agreeable.
Jerks don’t care if you tell them their ideas won’t work. Nor will they care if you are a net loser in the deal. They don’t care because they don’t need your validation. This in turn results in jerks being innovators and entrepreneurs because they are willing to break the mold and don’t care about your opinion. Thus, Steve Jobs.
I am not sure it makes a difference in the end to the outcome.
But I think that a lot of jerks are unsuccessful because they didn’t heed the warnings and because people were not willing to help them when they needed help later.
I would hazard a guess that nice averages out higher than being a jerk. But that’s just my observation.